Are You Letting Politics Make You Bitter Or Better? A Psychological Survival Conversation With CNN's Van Jones
Guest Van Jones, a CNN political analyst and meditator, shares techniques for maintaining sanity in turbulent times. He discusses mental exercises to manage anxiety, the importance of defining one's mission, and how to engage with opposing viewpoints constructively.
Deep Dive Analysis
9 Topic Outline
Introduction to Van Jones and Turbulent Times
Van Jones's Techniques for Staying Calm on Air
Mental Exercise for Anchoring Oneself
Defining One's Life Mission
Clearing Ego to Serve a Larger Purpose
The Purpose of Empathy in Acrimonious Times
Navigating Future Anxiety with Vision
Choosing Internal State Amidst External Pressure
Love as a More Effective Motivator Than Fear
5 Key Concepts
Cancellation Culture
Van Jones describes this as a phenomenon that increases anxiety, contrasting it with healthy criticism and disagreement which are essential for democracy. He emphasizes that one cannot truly be 'canceled' in a fundamental sense.
Tibetan Phrase for Enlightenment
As understood by Dan Harris, this phrase roughly translates to 'a clearing away and a bringing forth.' It refers to the process of shedding ego-driven concerns and bringing forward one's core mission and helpfulness.
Thinking About the Future
Van Jones suggests that effective future-oriented thinking involves focusing on the future one wants to create, rather than fixating on potential negative outcomes. Fear-based future thinking, he explains, inhibits creativity and leads to less effective decision-making.
Internal vs. External Conditions
This concept highlights that external circumstances do not determine one's internal state or outcome. Van Jones illustrates this with the analogy of hot water making a potato soft but an egg hard, emphasizing that personal choice and internal condition dictate how one responds to adversity.
Love as a Driving Force
Described as the opposite of fear, this 'love' is not weak sentimentality but a 'fierce, gritty, steely persistence.' It is a calm, purposeful force fueled by care for oneself, community, and country, enabling more effective action than fear or anger.
5 Questions Answered
Van Jones relies on spiritual beliefs, a mental exercise to clear ego-driven thoughts, and a strong focus on his life's mission. He also reframes criticism as a normal part of democracy, rather than a threat of 'cancellation.'
Van Jones clarifies that his empathy and open-mindedness are not for changing others, but for protecting himself from being changed by the surrounding acrimony and hatred. He aims to avoid becoming the intolerance he fights.
Instead of fixating on abstract threats, one should focus on the positive future they want to create. This vision-driven approach, as demonstrated by civil rights leaders, allows individuals to summon inner resources and act effectively, rather than being paralyzed by fear.
It is never the external condition alone that dictates the internal state; rather, one's internal condition and choices determine the outcome. The same external pressure can lead to different internal responses, like hot water making a potato soft but an egg hard.
Love, understood as a 'fierce, gritty, steely persistence' rooted in care for oneself, community, and country, is a more effective and calm motivator than fear or anger. This internal state can summon resources and inspire action even in the face of significant threats.
18 Actionable Insights
1. Choose Better, Not Bitter
Decide whether current challenges will make you bitter or better, understanding that your internal condition, not external circumstances, determines your outcome.
2. Define Your Life Mission
Clearly articulate your mission in life to anchor yourself and guide your choices, helping you choose how to ‘be’ in any given situation.
3. Envision Positive Future
Instead of fixating on past pain or fearing negative future projections, get very clear about the positive future you want to create, like Dr. King’s ‘dream’.
4. Be a Stand for Your Dream
In the present moment, act as a ‘stand’ for your desired future state; this can summon internal resources, change your brain chemistry, and inspire others.
5. Preserve Your Own Integrity
Practice empathy, kindness, and open-mindedness not to change others, but to prevent external acrimony and hatred from changing you into what you are fighting against.
6. Cultivate Grace and Gratitude
Make grace and gratitude a continuous practice, as these are essential for maintaining a positive internal state.
7. Control Breath and Posture
Actively choose how long your breath is and maintain an upright posture with shoulders back, as these physical actions signal strength to your mind and change your perception.
8. Detachment from External Identity
Recognize that your physical self and external roles are not your true identity, as you are a soul here to learn and be useful, which helps reduce anxiety about criticism or ‘cancellation’.
9. Reprogram Mind on Criticism
Understand that criticism and disagreement are normal in a democracy and are not equivalent to being ‘canceled,’ which helps alleviate anxiety.
10. Clear Ego-Driven Thoughts
Use a mental exercise to identify and ‘box up’ thoughts about how situations occur for you (e.g., perceived slights) and how you occur for yourself (e.g., unpreparedness), to clear ego-driven distractions.
11. Focus on Your Contribution
In collaborative or public settings, focus on the specific ’note’ you want to sound and the unique contribution you can make, rather than obsessing over ego-driven concerns like airtime or seating.
12. Practice Active, Open Listening
After stating your views, genuinely try to listen and be present to what others are saying, especially those with opposing viewpoints, without an ‘already knowing mind’ or the intent to bat them down.
13. Show Humanity and Vulnerability
Use your platform to demonstrate humanity, vulnerability, and a willingness to learn, as being ‘caught in the act of learning’ is the healthiest way to grow and use your influence.
14. Embrace Difficult Times
View bad or painful times as opportunities for growth and transformation, understanding that ’no pressure, no diamonds’ and you will be better because of how you dealt with the pain.
15. Identify Core Values
Be aware of your core values, even on days you fall short, as knowing them provides a framework for self-improvement and guidance.
16. Think More About Future
Actively engage in thinking more about the future, rather than solely fixating on the past, to guide your actions towards desired outcomes.
17. Don’t Let Past Pain Define
Acknowledge past pain but don’t let it have the last word; instead, use the struggles of ancestors as motivation for freedom and progress, understanding they suffered so you could be free.
18. Choose Love Over Fear
When facing challenges, consciously choose love as the guiding principle, as it is the opposite of fear and is more correlated with success.
8 Key Quotes
Are you going to let these times make you bitter or better?
Dan Harris (quoting Van Jones)
I can't be canceled. I can be criticized and that's okay.
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I'm not empathetic because I'm trying to change anyone else... I'm trying to make sure that other people don't change me.
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Nobody is a villain in their own movie.
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You'll never live in the future anyway. You only live in the now.
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Dr. King didn't say, I have a complaint. He didn't say, I have a critique... He said, I have a dream.
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It's never the external condition that gives you your internal state. The same hot water that makes a potato soft, makes an egg hard, same hot water. It's the internal condition that gives you the outcome.
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No pressure, no diamonds.
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1 Protocols
Mental Exercise for Clarity Before High-Stakes Situations
Van Jones- Ask yourself: 'How does this situation occur for me?' (e.g., uncomfortable chair, feeling unloved, perceived slights). Get all these external-focused thoughts out.
- Imagine putting all those thoughts in a box and moving the box to one side.
- Ask yourself: 'How do I occur for myself?' (e.g., didn't eat right, too much caffeine, unprepared). Get all these internal-focused thoughts out.
- Imagine putting that in a box and putting it to one side.
- Ask yourself: 'What is my mission?' (e.g., to help create a human civilization that works).
- Knowing your mission, ask: 'How do I choose to be tonight?' (e.g., curious, clear). Choose a specific way of being to anchor yourself.