Roshi Joan Halifax, 'Turning Towards the Suffering'

May 30, 2018 Episode Page ↗
Overview

Roshi Joan Halifax, a Zen priest and anthropologist, discusses balancing deep meditation practice with social action, navigating suffering, and cultivating compassion and integrity. She emphasizes that inner transformation is crucial for engaging with the world's injustices.

At a Glance
16 Insights
1h 7m Duration
14 Topics
10 Concepts

Deep Dive Analysis

Addressing Stillness in Meditation Practice

Balancing Deep Meditation with a 'Householder Life'

Roshi Joan Halifax's Early Life and Social Activism

The Influence of Thich Nhat Hanh and Contemplative Social Action

Understanding Suffering and the Path to Peace

Embracing Loving-Kindness and the Brahma Viharas

Navigating Biases and Cultivating Curiosity

Roshi Joan's Transition to a Practicing Zen Buddhist

Walking the Edge of Moral Outrage and Injustice

Key Concepts from 'Standing at the Edge'

Social Responsibility for Those in Conventional Lives

The Role of a Meditation Teacher

Roshi Joan's Daily Meditation Practice

The Urgent Need for Virtue and Compassion

Turning into the skid

This metaphor describes fully experiencing one's pain and suffering, rather than avoiding or denying it. This process helps open one's capacity for compassion and makes one more useful to others by understanding universal suffering.

Brahma Viharas (Boundless Abodes)

These are four natural states of mind—loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity—that are inherent to humans but often get obscured by conditioning. They can be cultivated through dedicated practice to foster a more virtuous character.

Loving-kindness (Metta)

A Brahma Vihara characterized by deep kindness, concern for others, and gentleness. It involves developing a loving and kind mind and heart, not just in interpersonal interactions but also in one's internal state.

Mudita (Sympathetic Joy)

A Brahma Vihara that is the opposite of schadenfreude, involving taking genuine pleasure in other people's success or good fortune. It is considered a challenging practice, especially in professional contexts.

Equanimity

A Brahma Vihara that entails holding all beings in equal regard and valuing each life. It helps in applying compassionate states in a world full of impermanence and cruelty, and in recognizing and working with one's own biases.

No Mud, No Lotus

A metaphor by Thich Nhat Hanh, meaning that the roots of the lotus grow deep into the mud of suffering, and this mud is what feeds its bloom. It illustrates that suffering is essential for growth, wisdom, and the actualization of compassion.

Book Buddhist

A term for someone who reads about Buddhism and attends talks but does not have a formal teacher or a consistent, accountable meditation practice, often 'trying on' different practices without deep commitment.

Pathological Altruism

A concept describing when one harms themselves (physically or mentally) in the course of serving others, or inadvertently disempowers or overwhelms those they intend to help, or even harms the institutions they are serving.

Empathic Distress

This occurs when there is too much fusion or arousal with another person's feelings, leading to secondary trauma or being wounded by intensely experiencing the emotions of others, rather than maintaining a compassionate distance.

Moral Suffering

A state experienced when integrity fragments, encompassing various forms such as moral distress, moral injury, moral outrage, and moral apathy, which Roshi Joan explores in depth in her book.

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Can you move during meditation, especially if you're uncomfortable?

Yes, you can move, especially if you think you're about to get hurt. However, there is a real benefit to staying still to learn equanimity with discomfort and to mindfully observe how pain and thoughts shift and change.

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How can one balance a deep meditation practice with a conventional 'householder life'?

Deeper engagement with meditation can actually make one more effective, focused, and less reactive in various endeavors. It's a balance between a burgeoning interest in practice and successfully remaining engaged in the 'real world,' which the practice itself can help navigate.

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What is the mechanism by which fully experiencing pain and suffering can lead to peace of mind?

Pushing suffering away prevents the opening of compassion. Turning towards suffering mindfully, without denial or indulgence, opens one's capacity for compassion, creating a ground to understand universal suffering and a desire to be useful.

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What is the Buddhist approach to dealing with personal biases or favoring some people over others?

The remedy is mindfulness – simply seeing these biases clearly without self-flagellation. There is value in observing one's biases to prevent being overwhelmed by them and to make wiser decisions.

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How do you walk the edge between being appropriately infuriated by injustice and allowing it to have a corrosive, drowning effect?

This balance is learned through meditation, enabling one to see the whole landscape of justice and injustice. It involves gaining humility from periods of imbalance and using the energy from injustice to transform society without falling into chronic, unprincipled outrage.

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What would Roshi Joan say to those with conventional lives who feel guilt about not being social activists?

Everyone is called to contribute, not necessarily as a major activist, but by addressing personal consumerism, environmental impact, and raising children with appreciation for inclusivity and diversity, finding their own 'scale of effectiveness.'

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Do 'book Buddhists' (those who read about Buddhism and practice a little but don't have a teacher) do it wrong?

Not everyone needs a formal teacher, as everything can be a teacher if one cultivates a sense of inquiry. While some, like Roshi Joan, benefit from a direct teacher for accountability, it's not a universal requirement.

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Does Roshi Joan believe enough people will embrace virtue and compassion to make a global difference?

Yes, she holds a 'hope in the dark' that despite global complexities and threats, there is a possibility of transforming the world into a viable, generative society that includes all beings, by developing a good heart and clear mind.

1. Use Single Breath to Shift State

Utilize even a single breath to help shift your mental state and wake you up to whatever was mindlessly owning you the moment before.

2. Practice Equanimity with Discomfort

When meditating, get curious about physical discomfort and the thoughts it provokes, viewing it mindfully without getting caught up. This develops the ability to handle difficult sensations, but move if you are truly about to get hurt.

3. Observe Inner Mental Chaos

Use meditation as an inner technology to see the constant ‘yammering’ voice in your head, especially its negative, repetitive, and self-referential nature. This mental exercise allows you to dis-embed from it and prevent it from owning you.

4. Morning Practice for Presence

First thing upon waking, check your state of mind, resettle your body, and remember your purpose (e.g., to end suffering). Allow yourself to be infused with compassion, presence, and wakefulness for 5 minutes to an hour, even while staying in bed.

5. Incorporate Walking Meditation

Meditate inside the life you have; for example, do walking meditation when moving through a concourse instead of hurrying mindlessly. This helps regulate your nervous system and drops you into presence.

6. Cultivate Curiosity & Openness

Develop a ‘mind of not knowing’ and curiosity to be open to perspective-taking. This expands your subjectivity to include others’ views, leading to true depth of field.

7. Embrace Suffering for Compassion

Turn towards your own suffering, experiencing it mindfully without pushing it away or indulging it. This opens your capacity for compassion and helps you understand universal suffering, making you more useful.

8. Integrate Contemplation & Action

Bring contemplative practice into relation with social action and responsibility. Internal transformation is necessary to effectively engage in external work and address structural violence.

9. Develop Good Heart, Clear Mind

Strive to develop a good heart and a clear mind, integrating wisdom and compassion. This is essential to shift society towards a viable and generative future.

10. Cultivate Boundless Abodes

Actively practice the Brahma Viharas: loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy (mudita), and equanimity. These natural states of mind, when cultivated, can transform your life and disposition.

11. Notice and Address Biases

Be mindful of your biases, such as favoring one person over another, and strive to hold all beings in equal regard and value each life. Simply seeing these biases clearly, without self-flagellation, has a healing value.

12. Diversify Media for Awareness

Maintain a varied media diet by listening to smart people across the ideological spectrum. This helps you identify your own biases, preventing you from being drowned by them and leading to wiser conclusions.

13. Manage Moral Outrage Effectively

Explore the edge of moral outrage, distinguishing between unprincipled, chronic outrage and principled outrage. Use the energy related to injustice to transform social fabric, rather than letting it become a corrosive state.

14. Avoid Toxic Altruism, Distress

Be aware of the risks of pathological altruism (harming yourself or others while trying to serve) and empathic distress (secondary trauma from too much fusion with another’s feelings). Strive to avoid these toxic states for your well-being and effective service.

15. Contribute at Your Own Scale

Recognize that everyone is called to contribute to a better world, not just through grand gestures. Address personal consumerism, consider environmental impact, and raise children with appreciation for inclusivity and diversity, finding your own scale of effectiveness.

16. Embrace Imperfection, Learn Humility

Do not strive for constant perfect balance; instead, accept that you will encounter rough times and periods of imbalance. These experiences can lead to humility and growth, preventing perfectionism from hindering your full potential.

No mud, no lotus.

Thich Nhat Hanh (quoted by Roshi Joan Halifax)

I think we have a serious deficit of virtue right now.

Roshi Joan Halifax

Here was somebody who brought contemplative practice in relation to social action and social responsibility and dealing with issues which he did related to structural violence.

Roshi Joan Halifax

Not that life is suffering, but there is suffering.

Roshi Joan Halifax

I think we're all a little selfish, and I think what's really extraordinary is that your message, which is a secular message, is reaching deep into our society, and is turning many people toward the so-called dharma, toward the value of mental training, the value of cultivating loving kindness.

Roshi Joan Halifax

One breath can help you shift states.

Roshi Joan Halifax

I began out of desperation. I think you did too.

Roshi Joan Halifax

Roshi Joan Halifax's Daily Meditation Practice

Roshi Joan Halifax
  1. First thing upon waking, check your state of mind.
  2. Resettle the body.
  3. Remember your purpose, which is to end suffering.
  4. Bring one person or another into your heart to be infused with a sense of compassion, giving direction and meaning.
  5. Spend anywhere from five minutes to an hour allowing your body and mind to settle down and become more integrated before heading out into the world.
  6. (Optional, if tired or jet-lagged) Stay supine in bed, allowing yourself to be infused with presence, compassion, and wakefulness.
  7. Repeat a similar practice at night.
  8. Integrate walking meditation into daily activities, such as walking through an airport concourse, using a mantra like 'gate, gate' (Sanskrit for gone, gone/arrive, arrive) to amuse yourself and regulate your nervous system.
Almost two hours a day
Dan Harris's daily meditation duration Practiced for the last three years, not in one dose but in multiple sessions throughout the day.
10 years
Roshi Joan Halifax's duration as a 'book Buddhist' Before becoming a student of a formal teacher.
10 years
Roshi Joan Halifax's duration practicing with her Korean teacher, Sang Sanim A very positive experience, but lacked social action integration.
75%
Percentage of Korea that is mountains Context for 'mountain style' Korean Zen practice.
3,000
Number of prostrations Korean monks in the Chokyo order perform daily Illustrates the vigorous nature of Korean Zen practice.