Scott Galloway on: The Impact of Work on Mental Health, the Role of Luck in Success, and How Much is Enough

Mar 13, 2023 Episode Page ↗
Overview

Dan Harris interviews Scott Galloway, a professor at NYU Stern School of Business and serial entrepreneur, about the profound impact of work on mental health. They discuss work-life balance, the role of luck in success, economic anxiety, and how to navigate professional challenges like getting fired.

At a Glance
17 Insights
50m 11s Duration
15 Topics
6 Concepts

Deep Dive Analysis

The Profound Impact of Work on Mental Health

Scott Galloway's Perspective on Privilege and Success

Personal Motivations: From Humiliation to Family

Shifting Motivations and the Desire for Relevance

Addiction to External Validation and Affirmation

Finding True Contentment and the 'Decade of More'

The U-Shaped Curve of Happiness Across Age

Navigating the 'Bring Your Whole Self to Work' Debate

Strategies for Overcoming Professional Setbacks Like Being Fired

Debunking Hustle Culture and the Role of Side Hustles

Work-Life Balance for Young, Ambitious Professionals

The Future of Remote Work and its Impact on Different Workers

Importance of In-Office Work for Young Professionals

The Population Decline and its Societal Implications

Willingness to Be Wrong and Provoke Conversation

Competitive Instinct

Humans are hardwired with a competitive instinct that drives them to run faster, jump higher, and be stronger. This instinct serves to attract mates and establish relevance within their peer group or 'tribe', contributing to the natural progression of generations becoming smarter, stronger, and faster.

Addiction to Affirmation

This refers to an excessive reliance on external validation, particularly from strangers, for a sense of reward and self-worth. It manifests as caring deeply about public opinion, constantly checking metrics of approval, and experiencing mood shifts based on others' perceptions, even when those individuals are not personally invested in one's well-being.

Decade of More

Scott Galloway describes his 30s and 40s as a 'decade of more,' characterized by an insatiable desire for increased material wealth, extravagant experiences, and social affirmation. He notes that achieving these 'more' moments provided only fleeting satisfaction, quickly setting a new, higher bar for future desires without leading to lasting contentment.

Happiness-Age Curve

This concept describes a U-shaped relationship between happiness and age. Happiness is generally high from birth to about 25, then declines between 25 and 45 (the 'shit gets real years' marked by professional and personal stress), and then rebounds dramatically after 45 as people learn to appreciate small pleasures and live more in the moment.

Care Worker Classification

This is a proposed informal or formal classification for employees who are taking care of parents, children, or managing their own health/mental wellness, or live far from work. The idea is that corporations should make special accommodations for these individuals to ensure their careers maintain a similar trajectory, even if they can only be in the office a few days a week.

Population Degradation

Beyond mere population decline, this refers to a demographic shift where the ratio of older, retired individuals significantly outnumbers younger workers and children. This trend can lead to structural economic decline, as seen in countries like Japan and Italy, and hinder a nation's ability to fund essential transitions like climate change initiatives, due to a lack of young, risk-aggressive, and creative minds.

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How does work impact overall mental health?

Work significantly impacts mental health due to the sheer amount of time spent on it, the constant measurement against peers in a capitalist society, and its role in establishing purpose and social networks. For men, self-worth is often tied to professional achievements and the ability to be a provider, making professional failure deeply stressful.

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Should you 'bring your whole self to work'?

Scott Galloway advises bringing grit and commitment to work, especially when young, by going 'all in' and working hard. However, he cautions against bringing one's full political views, emotions, or sensibilities about what offends them, as this can negatively impact career progression and is not what work is primarily about.

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What is the role of luck versus grit in professional success?

While grit and character are often credited for achievements, Scott Galloway emphasizes the significant role of luck and privilege, such as being born in a certain time, place, or demographic, in professional success. He notes that it's easy to credit grit for success and blame markets for failure, but a balanced perspective reveals substantial external advantages.

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What motivates Scott Galloway despite his success?

Initially, his motivation stemmed from the humiliation of not being able to financially care for his sick mother and later, the desire to provide for his children. As he's gotten older and achieved economic security, his motivation has shifted towards a desire for important, meaningful relationships and to experience life before it ends, combined with an addiction to external validation.

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How does happiness change throughout a person's life?

Happiness generally follows a U-shaped curve: high in youth (0-25), declining during the 'shit gets real years' (25-45) due to life's pressures and disappointments, and then rebounding dramatically after 45 as people learn to find joy and wonder in small, everyday things and become better at being in the moment.

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Is 'hustle culture' a good approach for young professionals?

Scott Galloway dislikes 'hustle porn' and the idea of side hustles, arguing that if one is ambitious, they should focus all their professional energy on their main endeavor. He believes that for young people aiming for economic success, a period of 'going all in' on work in their 20s and 30s, even at the cost of balance, is often necessary to establish relevance and security for later life.

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Will remote work continue after COVID-19?

Remote work is likely the most enduring feature of COVID-19, and we are not returning to pre-pandemic work norms. It represents an 'enormous unlock and opportunity,' especially for 'care workers' (those caring for family or managing health), for whom special accommodations should be made.

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What are the downsides of remote work, especially for young people?

Remote work is a significant negative for young people because it hinders the establishment of relationships, mentorships, and professional skills learned in an office environment. Young men, in particular, benefit from the 'guardrails' and discipline of an office, which helps with maturation and learning to 'read a room.' Economically, remote jobs may also lead to less money and professional trajectory.

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Why is population decline a concern for Western nations?

Population decline, especially when coupled with population degradation (more very old people than very young children), is a concern because it leads to structural economic decline. Young brains are crucial for risk-taking and creativity, and a shrinking young workforce supporting a growing retired population can result in permanent recession and an inability to fund societal transitions like climate change.

1. Prioritize Work in Early Career

If you are ambitious and seek economic security, commit fully to your career in your 20s and 30s, as this period is optimal for establishing relevance before family and age-related demands increase.

2. Adopt an Ownership Work Ethic

Consistently arrive early, act like an owner by considering decisions as if you had a stake in the company, and commit to working exceptionally hard, as effort is largely within your control.

3. In-Office Work for Young Professionals

Young professionals, especially men, should prioritize in-office work to establish relationships, find mentors, learn professional discipline, and develop crucial social skills that are difficult to acquire remotely.

4. Strategic Self-Presentation at Work

Bring your full grit and commitment to work, but refrain from bringing your personal emotions, political views, or sensibilities about what offends you, as this approach is generally not beneficial for professional advancement.

5. Cultivate Kindness as a Leader

As a leader, make a conscious effort to be kinder, express appreciation to employees, and offer support to improve their daily lives and your own happiness.

6. Recovering from Job Loss

If you get fired, allow yourself a short period to mourn, then forgive yourself, recognize it’s often not personal, and immediately focus on proactive steps like networking and confidently presenting yourself as a solution to other companies’ problems.

7. Harness Humiliation for Motivation

If you experience professional failure or humiliation, use it as a powerful motivator to ‘get your shit together’ and work harder to achieve your goals, especially for the well-being of loved ones.

8. Focus on One Main Hustle

If you seek economic security, direct all your professional energy into one main endeavor; if you have a side hustle, it indicates your main one isn’t working, so transition to make the side hustle your primary focus.

9. Savor Present Fleeting Moments

Actively practice tuning into and savoring precious, fleeting moments, especially with loved ones, as this is a trainable mental skill that enhances appreciation and joy before experiences evaporate.

10. Find Joy in Small Things

Actively seek and appreciate joy, reward, and wonder in small, everyday things, as this practice becomes easier and more fulfilling with age and significantly contributes to overall happiness.

11. Recreate Contentment Moments

Reflect on past moments of deep reward and contentment, identify the contributing attributes and people, and then actively work to recreate similar contexts in your life.

12. Mortality for Present Moment

Cultivate an awareness of mortality to ground yourself more deeply in the present moment and increase the value you place on your relationships.

13. Acknowledge Personal Privilege

Reflect on your personal advantages and circumstances to gain perspective, which can lead to greater kindness, better citizenship, and a more accurate understanding of your achievements.

14. Address External Validation Addiction

Be aware of and work to diminish an excessive reliance on external validation or the affirmation of strangers, as this addiction can lead to cycles of reward and depression that are ultimately unfulfilling.

15. Remote Work Compensation Trade-offs

Be aware that choosing a remote work job may lead to lower compensation and reduced professional trajectory, as such roles are more susceptible to global competition and outsourcing.

16. Provoke Conversation, Not Just Be Right

When engaging in public discourse or sharing opinions, aim to provoke thoughtful conversation rather than strictly striving to be right, which can help manage criticism and foster dialogue.

17. Advocate for “Care Worker” Accommodations

As a corporation or an individual, advocate for and implement special accommodations for “care workers” (those caring for children, parents, or managing their own health) to ensure their career trajectory is supported even with flexible work arrangements.

It's very easy to credit, your grit and your character for your achievements. And it's easy to blame the markets for your failures. But the real shift in my outlook has been a function of recognizing that, no, I didn't overcome anything. I was born on third base.

Scott Galloway

The humiliation of not being able to take care of my mom was incredibly motivating. And I would say that if I had what my kids have now, I wouldn't have what I have.

Scott Galloway

I'm addicted to the affirmation of strangers. And that is I care way too much. You know, when this podcast is released, I'll read every comment. And I will care what dog lady 3013 thinks.

Scott Galloway

The ultimate scarcity is kids. Because when I see this thing, and it brings up, you know, trying to do a handstand, or my 12-year-old trying to do a handstand when we were on vacation together, I'm like, he's gone. Never going to have that kid again.

Scott Galloway

The cohort that should be the least happy, old people, because they're the least healthy, are the happiest. They're the happiest because they have managed to slow down and admire the salad.

Scott Galloway

If you have a side hustle, it means your main hustle isn't working out. And as quickly as possible, you should get out of that main hustle and make the side hustle your main hustle.

Scott Galloway

My goal is to provoke a conversation not to be right.

Scott Galloway

How to Approach Work When Young (Ambitious)

Scott Galloway
  1. Go all in on work, especially when young.
  2. Avoid side hustles; if you have one, make it your main hustle if it's working better.
  3. Work the 'last 10%': arrive 5-10 minutes earlier than others.
  4. Act like an owner: think about decisions as if you owned 10% of the company.
  5. Work really hard and show commitment, as this is largely within your control.
  6. Recognize that balance may be minimal if you are professionally ambitious in your 20s and 30s.

Getting Over Being Fired

Scott Galloway
  1. Mourn for a little bit, perhaps a few days or a couple of weeks, allowing yourself to feel bad or angry.
  2. Forgive yourself and move on, understanding that it's usually about the situation, not a personal indictment.
  3. Immediately put together a list of actions, such as updating your LinkedIn profile.
  4. Call your friends and network to seek new opportunities.
  5. Get out there and actively pursue new roles.
  6. Look in the mirror, physically and metaphorically, and affirm that you are the solution to a firm's problems and will add significant value.
95%
NYU MBA students expecting to be in top 1% by age 35 Scott Galloway's survey of his class at NYU
70% to 80%
Divorces initiated by females Often due to economic stress, not infidelity
One in three
Marriages/relationships that begin at work Highlights the social importance of the workplace
76%
UCLA admissions rate when Scott Galloway applied In the mid-60s, indicating greater accessibility to higher education
$400
Cost per semester at UCLA when Scott Galloway attended Reflecting significantly lower education costs in the past
$55
Cost of a nurse per hour When Scott Galloway's mother was sick and he couldn't afford care
50%
Western nations facing population decline Current trend, leading to potential population degradation
Six times as many over 90
Ratio of people over 90 to children under 5 by turn of the century Projected demographic shift based on current trends, indicating population degradation
350,000
Subscribers to Scott Galloway's 'No Mercy/No Malice' newsletter As of the time of the podcast