Aligning society with our deepest values and sources of meaning (with Joe Edelman)
1. Identify Core Personal Values
When facing disagreements, especially political ones, distinguish between “banner terms” (political affiliations), “norms” (expectations on everyone), and “personal values” or “sources of meaning” (what individuals personally find meaningful). Focus on the third type, as people agree much more on these underlying personal values.
2. Rephrase Politically Divisive Values
When discussing values, rephrase politically contentious slogans or terms into more universally relatable concepts that explain why the value is important, removing the specific conclusion. This helps uncover common ground and reduce divisiveness.
3. Consider Context for Value Importance
Recognize that different values rise in importance in different contexts (e.g., leadership, parenting). When evaluating a value, consider the specific situation to understand its relevance and potential for broader agreement.
4. Seek Wiser, Comprehensive Values
Actively seek out and be open to considering other candidate values that might be wiser or more comprehensive than your initial articulation. People are often willing to find other values more insightful, leading to greater convergence.
5. Mediate by Surfacing Core Values
In interpersonal disagreements, focus on uncovering the underlying personal values or “sources of meaning” for each person involved, rather than immediately debating policy or preferences. Present these values to each other to foster understanding and collaboration.
6. Articulate Personal Values for Life
Take time to get clear on your personal values or “sources of meaning” to help structure and plan your own life. This self-reflection can guide choices and lead to a more fulfilling existence.
7. Cultivate Aesthetic Appreciation
Practice finding things you find beautiful and capturing what kind of aesthetic value you are tuned into. This can be done during walks, alone or with a friend, to deepen your connection to your environment and shared experiences.
8. Recognize Market Value Bias
Understand that markets are often better at serving shallow, individual desires than deep, collective ones. This awareness can help you make more informed choices and recognize when market solutions might not fully address your intrinsic needs.
9. Avoid Easy “Fake” Solutions
Be aware of “replica theory,” where easier, fake versions of valuable things (e.g., dating apps optimized for swipes, not deep matches) are often rewarded more than the real thing. This occurs when people are inarticulate about what they want or when verification is difficult.
10. Leverage AI for Value Clarity
Consider using AI tools to help make your deeper desires clearer to yourself and to make their satisfaction more verifiable. This can help move beyond superficial consumerism and political affiliations towards a more meaningful life.