Psychological change in a single session (with Jessica Schleider)
1. Embrace Instant Change
Adopt the mindset that significant personal change can occur at any moment, not just over long periods, as this can be an uplifting thought when struggling.
2. Act Without Readiness
Let go of the assumption that you must feel completely ready before taking action on difficult tasks or goals, as readiness may never come and shouldn’t hold you back.
3. Practice Behavioral Activation
Engage in values-aligned activities daily, even if you don’t feel good, because your actions can directly shape your emotions and move you closer to your goals. Plan five minutes a day for something just for you, connecting with someone positive, and a step towards a goal.
4. Challenge Unhelpful Identities
Actively work to undo identities that label you with permanent conditions (e.g., “permanently depressed”) and instead cultivate helpful identities that support your capacity for change.
5. Recognize Change Is Possible
Understand that mental health challenges like depression and anxiety are not fixed traits but experiences that can be managed and changed through coping and different responses.
6. Seek Validation & Connection
Actively seek out individuals or communities where you feel truly understood and seen, as this can combat feelings of loneliness and defectiveness, unlocking motivation for change.
7. Surprise Yourself With Action
Deliberately engage in actions you previously thought impossible for yourself, as observing your own capability can fundamentally shift your self-perception and open new paths for coping.
8. Reclaim Your Future Narrative
Consciously make decisions and take concrete steps towards a future you define and desire for yourself, which combats hopelessness and fosters a sense of control over your life.
9. Fulfill Basic Psychological Needs
Focus on activities that enhance your sense of competence (having skills), autonomy (control over your future), and relatedness (connection to others), as fulfilling these needs unlocks behavior change.
10. Use The “Miracle Day” Exercise
When facing a problem, imagine a “miracle day” where it’s completely resolved and your top hope achieved; then, identify small, concrete steps to move one point closer to that ideal, leveraging your existing strengths.
11. Reflect On Past Turning Points
Regularly reflect on past moments in your life where you experienced significant shifts, such as feeling seen, being inspired, taking control, or surprising yourself, to appreciate past growth and become more attuned to future turning points.