Moment 12 - Krissy Cela on How She Discovered Her Self-Confidence
The host and guest Chrissy discuss the power of authenticity and self-belief. Chrissy shares her journey of overcoming bullying and people-pleasing, finding self-confidence and therapy through consistent gym attendance.
Deep Dive Analysis
7 Topic Outline
The Importance of Authenticity in Success
Early Struggles with Self-Perception and Pleasing Others
Childhood Bullying and the 'Mustache Story'
The Impact of Betrayal and Social Exclusion
Realizing the Need to Act for Oneself
Overcoming Fear to Start a Fitness Journey
Discovering the Gym as a Form of Therapy
2 Key Concepts
Authenticity in Success
Being your true self, sharing vulnerabilities, and not trying to please everyone leads to genuine connection and sustained success, as upholding a fake image is unsustainable and will eventually 'fall through the cracks'.
Gym as Therapy
For some, physical exercise, particularly weight training, can serve as an escape and a coping mechanism for mental health struggles like depression, anger, and the stresses of life, providing a sense of accomplishment and relief that no one can take away.
5 Questions Answered
Being authentic allows for genuine connection and prevents the unsustainable effort of maintaining a false image, leading to more lasting success and personal satisfaction because you are being the best version of yourself.
Krissy struggled with self-confidence, trying to please others in relationships and fit in at school, where she was teased for having a mustache and felt like an outsider, leading to feelings of sadness and self-consciousness.
After experiencing heartbreak and feeling constant anger and hate, Krissy realized she wasn't doing anything for herself, leading her to sign up for a gym membership with the mantra 'do this for you'.
She was scared and doubted herself, questioning her ability to be a 'fitness girl' and feeling like she didn't know what she was doing, which led her to not return for two months.
The gym became a form of therapy for Krissy, offering an escape from her depression and anger, and the feeling of completing workouts gave her a sense of accomplishment and empowerment that no one could take away.
7 Actionable Insights
1. Embrace Your Authentic Self
Strive to be the best version of yourself rather than trying to be someone else, as upholding a fake image is unsustainable and will eventually lead to failure or unhappiness.
2. Prioritize Self-Belief Over External Validation
Focus on what you think about yourself, as true self-belief eliminates the desire to be fake or constantly seek approval from others.
3. Stop People-Pleasing
Recognize that constantly trying to be someone else for others is draining and prevents genuine happiness, so prioritize your own well-being over external approval.
4. Act For Your Own Benefit
Shift your motivation from seeking external validation to internal self-improvement, adopting the mantra ‘do this for you’ to drive personal growth and happiness.
5. Use Exercise as Therapy
Engage in physical activity, such as going to the gym, as a form of therapy to escape daily stressors, process emotions, and build mental resilience against life’s challenges.
6. Overcome Initial Fear to Start
Acknowledge and push past initial fear or intimidation when starting a new routine or entering an unfamiliar environment, even if it means a delayed start, to achieve your goals.
7. Learn By Doing
When faced with a new skill or environment where you lack knowledge, don’t wait for perfect understanding; start the activity and learn through consistent practice and observation.
5 Key Quotes
You can only be the best version of yourself and this is what I tell people all the time it's never been about other people's perceptions of you it's always been what you think about yourself.
Krissy Cela
I constantly have to be something else for someone else, I'm never gonna be happy.
Krissy Cela
I ate my school dinner for six months in a toilet because I didn't have any friends.
Krissy Cela
I can try so hard to be sexy and cool and all this stuff other people but I'm not doing anything for myself and that's where the quote do this for you comes from.
Krissy Cela
I kind of got addicted to the feeling of how completing a workout made me feel and I started going again and again and I started learning because what was it doing for you going it was giving me my therapy therapy from what from life from my reality from the fact that I was so depressed or with who I was and so angry at the world and everything the world had done to me.
Krissy Cela