will.i.am Opens Up: “I Would Have Had Children 10 Years Ago!!!” Guilt, Shame, Depression, Creativity & ADHD!

Jul 31, 2023
Overview

Will.i.am, a seven-time Grammy winner, discusses his journey from East L.A. to global fame, emphasizing the power of creativity, optimism, and purpose. He shares insights on overcoming fear, managing an active mind, and leveraging AI to empower communities and build a better future.

At a Glance
12 Insights
1h 19m Duration
17 Topics
5 Concepts

Deep Dive Analysis

Will.i.am's Early Life and Creative Roots

Mother's Influence and Resourcefulness in East LA

Discovery of Poverty and Creative Expression

Developing Musical Creativity as a Child

Qualities and Tools for Hyper-Creativity

Overcoming Fear and Embracing Creative Expression

Will.i.am's View on Relationships and Future Vision

Inside the Mind of a Constant Thinker and Analyzer

ADHD and the Electron's Perspective on Stillness

Evolving Views on Fatherhood and Family Life

The Role of Future-Casting in Personal Growth

Experiencing "Distortion" and Mental Health

Understanding Distortion, Depression, and Anxiety

The FYI App and Data Ownership in the AI Era

AI's Societal Impact and the Future of Work

Human Responsibility and Optimism Towards AI

Desired Superpower: Influencing Harmonious Vibrations

Creativity as Currency

Will.i.am describes creativity as his primary asset when he had no money, a means of solving problems and expressing himself. His mother's encouragement fueled this self-belief and fearlessness, allowing him to navigate challenges and make things from scratch.

Hard Work is Relative

This concept suggests that what one person perceives as 'hard work' is simply 'what I do' for another, similar to involuntary bodily functions like the heart beating or lungs breathing. It implies that the definition of hard work depends on individual perspective, internal drive, and the environment one operates in.

Distortion (Mental State)

A state of dis-ease or disharmony in one's vibrational field, characterized by panic, angst, and off-kilter hyperactivity. It's a turbulent emotional state often triggered by personal errors, letting loved ones down, or feeling shame and guilt, and can lead to depression if not addressed.

Future-Casting

The act of purposely looking into the future and using imagination to strategically plan actions in the present to manifest a desired dream or outcome. It's a controlled process of envisioning the future and identifying steps, distinct from anxiety which involves uncontrolled emotions about uncertain future outcomes.

Aspirational GPS

A hypothetical system that would allow users to input a desired future state (e.g., a target weight by a specific date) and then guide them with a personalized, data-driven path to achieve that goal. This concept highlights the need for systems that empower individuals to control and direct their personal data for self-improvement.

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How did Will.i.am's childhood in East Los Angeles shape his view of the world?

His childhood in the ghettos of East Los Angeles, Boyle Heights, was characterized by his mother's encouragement of his creativity, which became his 'currency' when money was scarce. His mother's resourcefulness and emphasis on learning and self-expression instilled a strong sense of purpose and fearlessness.

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How did Will.i.am realize his family was poor, and how did it impact him?

He realized his family was poor when his school collected food for 'poor families' and the food was delivered to his own house. Initially, kids made fun of him, but his mother's practice of dressing him in suits for school countered the perception of poverty, making his attire a form of expression and separation from negative stereotypes.

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What are the essential qualities for someone to be highly creative?

To be hyper-creative, one must be competitive, analytical of oneself and competitors, elevated in perspective, curious, humble, and a predator (selective in what to 'consume'). Humility attracts information, while a predatory nature ensures one is ready to 'eat' but disciplined in selection.

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What is the true purpose or goal of creativity, according to Will.i.am?

The primary goal of creativity is to 'let it out' – to absorb the world and then 'rinse' it out, similar to a sponge or even vomiting. It's a therapeutic process that first helps the individual make sense of the world, and only then can it be strategically used to help others.

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How does Will.i.am manage his constant thinking and analytical mind in relationships?

He acknowledges that his constant thinking and analyzing can be overbearing in relationships, likening himself to a 'deep diver' exploring the abyss rather than a 'beach guy.' He has learned to use a 'volume knob' to temper this, emphasizing empathy and understanding of a partner's contribution without conforming or changing his core nature.

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Why has Will.i.am's perspective on fatherhood changed over time?

He initially believed he needed to achieve his 'ultimate' professional goals before having a family. However, he now realizes that having children would have forced him to be more organized and aerodynamic in his journey, serving as an even greater motivation. He now desires to be a full-time, purposeful dad, leveraging his current ability to assemble and fund teams rather than doing everything himself.

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What is the difference between "distortion" and "depression" in Will.i.am's view?

Distortion is the initial shaking of the table, a state of dis-ease or disharmony in one's vibrational field, often caused by personal errors or letting loved ones down. Depression is the outcome of prolonged distortion, like the shattering or cracking of the glass due to persistent shaking.

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How does Will.i.am differentiate between anxiety and future-casting?

Anxiety arises from having emotions about outcomes of things happening that are out of one's control, where imagination runs wild with potential negative scenarios. Future-casting, conversely, is purposely looking ahead and strategically planning actions, a controlled process where one doesn't attach immediate emotions to the imagined future.

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What is Will.i.am's vision for data ownership in the age of AI?

He believes individuals should own 100% of their data, including their voice, face, searches, and location, similar to how companies own their intellectual property. His app, FYI, aims to provide users with an encryption key to truly own their digital assets and data, challenging the current model where personal likeness is not legally owned by the individual.

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How does Will.i.am view the rise of Artificial Intelligence, particularly for marginalized communities?

He sees AI as a powerful tool for marginalized communities, who have historically been 'set up to fail' by societal structures. He believes AI can empower them to solve their own problems, educate themselves, and unearth tomorrow's industries, rather than being fearful like those who are responsible for existing societal inequities.

1. Embrace AI for Empowerment

View AI as a powerful tool to solve problems and build a better world, especially for communities that have historically been set up to fail by human systems. Focus on using it to educate, understand biases, and prepare for future industries.

2. Cultivate Hyper-Creativity

To be truly creative, be competitive, analytical of yourself and rivals, elevated to see the terrain, curious, humble, and a selective predator. This combination attracts information and fosters innovation.

3. Release Creativity Without Judgment

True creativity is like a sponge absorbing and rinsing, or vomiting; it’s an uncontrollable release. Don’t worry about others’ opinions, as fear of judgment indicates you’re creating for the wrong reasons.

4. Differentiate Future Planning from Anxiety

Understand that anxiety stems from worrying about uncontrolled outcomes, while purposeful future casting involves strategically imagining and planning for desired results. Consciously control your emotional response to future thoughts.

5. Practice Active Awareness (No “Nothing”)

Never say you are doing “nothing”; always be aware of your thoughts or actions, even if it’s just breathing. This habit, instilled by his mother, fosters continuous engagement and purpose.

6. Seek Relationships for Shared Vision

Engage in relationships with people who can help you “ship” your vision to the future, relating to them to accomplish shared goals. This redefines partnership as a collaborative journey.

7. Manage Constant Thinking

For highly analytical minds, recognize that while an “off switch” for thinking may not exist, a “volume knob” does. Learn to modulate the intensity of your analytical mind to avoid overwhelming others in relationships.

8. Develop Resourcefulness with Limited Means

Learn to creatively transform old into new and find unconventional ways to acquire resources. Will.i.am’s mother exemplified this by repurposing thrift store clothes and converting food stamps into coins for other necessities.

9. Pass On Knowledge and Gifts

Recognize the responsibility to pass on accumulated knowledge, resilience, tolerance, and hope to future generations. This ensures a legacy and continuation of progress.

10. Value Humanity Over Setbacks

Prioritize people’s pure intent and aspirations over conventional setbacks like illiteracy or poverty. His mother taught him to value individuals for their potential to raise families and achieve great things.

11. Embrace Femininity as a Superpower

Recognize and embrace your unique traits, such as femininity, as a source of strength and a superpower. This fosters self-acceptance and confidence.

12. Engage with Strangers for Mutual Insight

Be open to conversing with strangers, as you never know what valuable “nuggets” of information or light you might give or receive. This encourages empathy and continuous learning.

Creativity has always been my currency when I had no money.

Will.i.am

The moment you start worrying about people's opinion, then you definitely, by default, are not a creative. You're doing it for the wrong reasons.

Will.i.am

Hard work is relative because to some, well, this is not hard work. This is just what I do.

Will.i.am

The anxiety comes when it's things that are happening that you didn't control. And you're now having emotions because your imagination is now thinking of the outcomes of things that are out of your control.

Will.i.am

AI didn't do that, people did that. Now here's a tool for us to solve our problems ourselves now.

Will.i.am

We've already went through the worst and survived the worst conditions of life. Are these folks afraid? Oh, oh, those folks, the ones that are responsible for our zoning. Got it. Okay, cool. Now let's build a better world.

Will.i.am

Will.i.am's Childhood Music Creation Process

Will.i.am
  1. Take headphones and plug them into the microphone jack of a boombox.
  2. Take a cassette tape (e.g., Barbie Rockers tape) and put tape over the left side to record over it.
  3. Play a favorite part from a record on a record player.
  4. Press unpause and record on the boombox to capture the favorite part.
  5. Pause recording when the favorite part is over, then play it again to make a loop.
  6. Put the newly formed loop tape in the boombox.
  7. Take another cassette tape (e.g., sister's Teddy Ruxpin tape) and record over it.
  8. Press play on the loop and rap over it, recording onto the second tape.
  9. Put the finished song tape into Teddy Ruxpin and press play to make Teddy Ruxpin rap.
18 years old
Age when Will.i.am experienced a very turbulent, distorting period Occurred from March to August of 1993
26 years old
Age when Will.i.am bought his mom a house He had wanted to do it at 13
1998
Year since which Will.i.am has rarely been in one place for more than two months (excluding two specific years) Excluding the majority of 2002 and 2020
Two months
Longest duration Will.i.am has been in one place since 1998 (excluding 2002 and 2020) Reflects his extensive travel schedule
2008
Year Will.i.am started his foundation Focused on robotics and computer science for inner-city kids
65 students
Initial number of students in Will.i.am's foundation At its inception in 2008
Almost 15,000 students
Current number of students served by Will.i.am's foundation in Los Angeles As of the time of the podcast, scaled from 65 students
1920
Will.i.am's grandmother's birth year Mentioned in the context of inherited resilience and hope
18-something
Will.i.am's great-grandmother's approximate birth year Mentioned in the context of inherited resilience and hope, implying a life of hardship like slavery