E40: The Day My Dream Came True

Oct 31, 2019 50m 40s 6 insights
Stephen Bartlett reflects on his company going public, sharing personal insights on how external success doesn't guarantee internal fulfillment. He discusses the importance of authenticity, actively practicing gratitude, and embracing uncertainty to achieve genuine happiness and professional success.
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace Uncertainty for Growth

Your inability to handle uncertainty is a greater long-term enemy than your current bad situation. Be brave enough to step into uncertain situations to escape misery and achieve happiness and success, as change won’t happen otherwise.

2. Prioritize Authentic Living

Cultivate a life true to yourself, as authenticity correlates with greater happiness and less distress. Reflect on your true values, stop imitating others, and align your time with situations that accept who you are, even if it means journaling or being vulnerable.

3. Actively Practice Gratitude

Make gratitude your religion by actively deploying it, especially through contrast (e.g., comparing your current state to past struggles or others’ suffering). This practice helps you feel grateful, focus on what truly matters, and reduce attachment to external validation.

4. Stop Chasing External Happiness

Give up the belief that happiness is a future milestone (e.g., more money, a promotion, more followers), as it will prevent you from finding contentment in the present. Recognize that happiness is an internal state, cultivated by a healthier mindset and addressing internal issues.

5. Build a Complementary Skill Stack

Become the best in your field by aiming to be in the top 5-10% of several complementary and unique skills, rather than just one. Identify uncommon skills in your industry that provide a competitive advantage and focus on developing them.

6. Demand Respect in Relationships

Realize that while compromise is necessary in relationships, you should not have to tolerate constant conflict or “shit.” Seek connections that make you feel content and complete, rather than settling for misery.