Moment 119: How To Figure Out ANYTHING In Your Life: Marie Forleo

Jul 21, 2023 8m 8s 5 insights
This episode explores the "figureoutable mindset" with three rules for approaching problems and dreams. It emphasizes the importance of honest self-assessment regarding true desire versus "wanting to want" something, and how our use of time reveals our actual priorities.
Actionable Insights

1. Assess True Desire for Goals

Before pursuing any goal, honestly ask if you genuinely want it or if you merely “want to want” it, as external pressures often lead to pursuing things you don’t truly care about. This prevents wasted effort and self-blame for lack of motivation.

2. Replace ‘Can’t’ with ‘Won’t’

When you find yourself saying “I can’t” do something, replace it with “I won’t” or “That’s not a priority for me right now” to reveal your true priorities and motivations. This fosters honesty and frees you from self-judgment.

3. Time Use Reveals Priorities

Recognize that how you allocate your time is a direct reflection of your actual priorities and values, not merely a lack of available hours. This helps identify what you truly value versus what you claim to value.

4. Release Uncared-For Goals

If you discover you don’t deeply care about a particular dream or goal, it’s okay to let it go and redirect your energy towards something you genuinely desire. This prevents feeling unmotivated or like a failure.

5. Adopt a Figureoutable Mindset

Believe that most problems or dreams are solvable, and if something isn’t, it’s a law of nature (like death or taxes). This framework encourages proactive problem-solving and honest self-assessment of commitment.