Moment 126: How To Master The Consistency Of Achieving Your Goals & Sticking To Them: Nir Eyal

Sep 8, 2023 14m 28s 10 insights
This episode explores discipline and willpower, debunking the myth of limited willpower. It introduces a value-based time management system, emphasizing scheduling time for self, relationships, and focused work to overcome the feeling of "not feeling like it."
Actionable Insights

1. Willpower Is Not Limited

Understand that willpower is not a finite resource that depletes; this belief itself is what limits it. By believing willpower is unlimited, you empower yourself to act without running out of mental energy.

2. Align Actions with Values

Define your values as attributes of the person you want to become, then use these values to guide how you spend your time. This ensures your efforts are directed towards what truly matters to you.

3. Time-Box Your Calendar

Use a time-box calendar instead of a to-do list to schedule your time based on your values. This approach forces you to work within constraints and prioritize inputs (time and attention) over outputs, preventing feelings of failure from unfinished tasks.

4. Prioritize Time Over Money

Adopt a mindset where you are “cheap with your time and generous with your money,” rather than the reverse. Recognize that time is a non-renewable resource, unlike money, making its allocation more critical.

5. Budget Time and Attention

Treat time and attention as essential ingredients for your goals, just like a baker budgets flour and sugar. Plan and budget these inputs ahead of time to ensure successful execution of your endeavors.

6. Schedule Self-Care Time

Dedicate specific time in your calendar for personal well-being, including rest, reading, or hobbies. Prioritizing this “you” time is fundamental, as you cannot effectively care for others or work without first taking care of yourself.

7. Schedule Relationship Time

Actively schedule time for your relationships with friends, family, and significant others, rather than giving them leftover scraps of time. This helps combat loneliness and strengthens social connections.

8. Schedule Reflective Work

Allocate dedicated time in your schedule for “reflective work” – thinking, planning, and focused creative tasks. This is crucial for making progress in the right direction, even if it’s just 15-20 minutes daily.

9. Overcome “Not Feeling Like It”

Recognize that the primary reason for failing at goals is often a feeling of “not feeling like it.” When tasks become difficult or less enjoyable, different tactics are needed to follow through, often by connecting them back to your values.

10. Differentiate Work Types

Understand the difference between “reactive work” (responding to messages, notifications) and “reflective work” (focused, creative tasks). While reactive work is necessary, ensure you schedule reflective work to avoid running fast in the wrong direction.