Sex & Infertility Expert: You Need To Grow Your Sex Span! This Is Killing Your Fertility! This Daily Habit Transforms Your Sex Life!

Jan 9, 2025 1h 39m 26 insights
Dr. Mohit Kara, a board-certified urologist and professor, discusses "sexpan" and the widespread issues of sexual dysfunction in men and women. He explores lifestyle, hormonal, and psychological factors affecting libido and erectile function, emphasizing holistic and couple-focused approaches to sexual health.
Actionable Insights

1. Prioritize Lifestyle for Sexual Health

Focus on diet, exercise, sleep, and stress reduction as these are the most powerful tools for improving and prolonging sexpan, healthspan, and lifespan, often surpassing the effects of medication.

2. Destigmatize Sexual Dysfunction

Challenge the stigma around sexual dysfunction by recognizing it as a common, curable condition that should be discussed openly with doctors, similar to other health issues, to enable effective treatment.

3. Prioritize Open Communication About Sex

Foster open dialogue with your partner about sexual issues, as poor communication can make sexual problems dominate a relationship and prevent effective solutions, leading to suffering in silence.

4. View ED as a Cardiovascular Warning

Recognize erectile dysfunction as a potential early warning sign of underlying cardiovascular disease, as penile arteries are smaller and show blockages before coronary arteries, prompting further medical investigation.

5. Prioritize Weight Loss for Testosterone

Losing weight, particularly 10-15% of body weight, can significantly increase testosterone levels, which are often lowered by fat cells converting testosterone to estrogen and suppressing natural production.

6. Adopt a Mediterranean Diet

Implement a Mediterranean diet, rich in whole grains, legumes, fruits, and vegetables, as studies show it can significantly improve endothelial function and erectile function in men, and overall sexual function in women.

7. Aim for 7-8 Hours of Sleep

Ensure you get 7-8 hours of sleep per night, as less than six hours significantly increases the risk of sexual dysfunction in both men and women, while more than nine hours does not offer additional benefits.

8. Engage in Regular Vigorous Exercise

Commit to 160 minutes (40 minutes, four times a week) of moderate to vigorous exercise for at least six months to significantly improve erectile function, with greater benefits for more severe ED, without other interventions.

9. Understand Stress’s Gendered Libido Impact

Men often seek sex to relieve stress, while women typically need stress relief before engaging in sexual activity; partners should consider this difference to foster intimacy, such as by relieving a partner’s stress.

10. Create Dedicated Time and Novelty for Sex

Make conscious time for intimacy and change the environment (e.g., staycations, holidays) to remove daily stressors and reintroduce novelty, which can significantly improve sexual desire and experience.

11. Check Testosterone as a General Health Marker

View testosterone levels as a key indicator of overall health, impacting heart health, diabetes risk, obesity, depression, and bone density in both men and women, making it a crucial blood test.

12. Recognize Testosterone’s Role in Women’s Health

Understand that women also produce and benefit from testosterone, which can improve libido, muscle mass, bone density, and overall well-being; discuss off-label options with a doctor if levels are low and symptoms are present.

13. Consider Hormone Optimization

Explore testosterone supplementation if levels are low and symptoms are present, as it can significantly improve sexual function in both men and women, but avoid if planning children as it can cause infertility in men.

14. Check Key Libido Hormones

If experiencing low libido, get levels of prolactin, estrogen, thyroid, and testosterone (PET) checked, as imbalances in these four hormones can significantly impact sexual desire.

15. Review Medications for Libido Impact

Be aware that certain medications, like antidepressants (SSRIs), can increase serotonin and decrease libido; discuss alternatives or adjustments with a doctor if this is a concern, as other options like Wellbuterin increase dopamine.

16. Moderate Pornography Consumption

Excessive pornography viewing can create unrealistic expectations that lead to erectile dysfunction and low libido in real-life sexual encounters; reducing consumption may improve these issues by realigning expectation with reality.

17. Enhance Erections to Boost Male Libido

Improving the quality and reliability of erections can indirectly increase a man’s libido by reducing anxiety and increasing confidence in sexual encounters, breaking a vicious cycle of avoidance.

18. Consider Daily Cialis for Psychogenic ED

For psychogenic ED, a daily low-dose Cialis (5mg) can break the anxiety cycle by ensuring consistent erectile function, potentially strengthening penile tissue and reversing ED, without dependency.

19. Address Premature Ejaculation with Therapy or Sprays

For premature ejaculation, consider sex therapy techniques like start-stop or squeeze, which can be a cure, or use topical lidocaine sprays to decrease sensitivity and prolong intercourse.

20. Consider Local Vaginal Estrogen Post-Menopause

For postmenopausal women experiencing pain with intercourse or increased UTIs due to vaginal atrophy, local vaginal estrogen therapy can thicken the vaginal wall, reduce discomfort, and improve sexual function over about three months.

21. Improve Overall Health for Fertility

Recognize that healthier individuals tend to be more fertile; lifestyle changes improving general health can positively impact fertility, and a semen analysis can predict future health risks like diabetes or cancer.

22. Utilize ED as an Opportunity for Early Intervention

Leverage erectile dysfunction as a powerful motivator for men, especially young men, to seek medical attention, allowing for early screening and treatment of underlying health issues like diabetes, saving years of potential damage.

23. Understand Testosterone’s Cardiovascular Safety

Be aware that the TRAVERSE trial, the largest study on testosterone, found no increased risk of cardiovascular events, prostate cancer, or worsening urinary symptoms with testosterone supplementation within normal ranges.

24. Check Testosterone Levels for Depression

If experiencing depression, particularly with other symptoms of low T, get testosterone levels checked, as supplementation can significantly improve depressive symptoms, even alongside antidepressants.

25. Prioritize Enjoyment and Presence

Learn from the lesson to “enjoy the ride” and not delay gratification or personal fulfillment until a later, uncertain future, as life can be unpredictable and opportunities may not always materialize.

26. Implement Daily Grounding Practices

Integrate daily routines like meditation, exercise, personal time, and prayer to maintain mental and spiritual well-being amidst a busy life, as these practices can keep you grounded.