The No.1 Celebrity Therapist: The WEIRD Trick To Get Your Sex Life Back, Fix Erections & Increase Fertility! - Marisa Peer

Sep 18, 2023 1h 20m 10 insights
Marissa Peer, a renowned therapist, explores how beliefs shape our reality, discussing the power of thoughts to influence success, relationships, and even physical responses. She shares actionable insights on transforming self-worth, improving sex life, and overcoming cravings, including a live hypnosis session for sugar addiction.
Actionable Insights

1. Choose and Upgrade Beliefs

Actively choose your beliefs and constantly question their origin and validity. Recognize that beliefs you hold, even if old or inherited, are not necessarily true for you now, and you can upgrade them to better serve your current reality.

2. Lie to Your Mind for Success

Intentionally ’lie’ to your mind by repeating positive affirmations about your abilities and desired outcomes, even if you don’t initially believe them. Your subconscious mind doesn’t think, it only feels, and will work to make your repeated thoughts real.

3. Reframe Negative Self-Talk

Understand that your mind’s job is to make your thoughts real, so focus on thinking better thoughts about yourself. Replace self-deprecating labels (e.g., ‘I’m unorganized’) with positive affirmations (e.g., ‘I love being organized’) to shift your reality.

4. Embrace Fantasy in Relationships

Introduce mystery, suspense, and fantasy into long-term relationships to maintain eroticism and excitement. This can involve role-playing or imagining your partner as someone new, which can enhance desire and physical responses.

5. Avoid Parent-Child Dynamics

Refrain from calling your partner ‘mommy’ or ‘daddy’ and avoid taking on critical or loving parent roles in your relationship. Such dynamics can severely diminish sexual desire and intimacy, as people generally do not desire their parents sexually.

6. Prioritize Self-Esteem Development

Focus on elevating your sense of self-worth and self-esteem from within, rather than seeking validation externally. A strong, authentic sense of self is attractive and crucial for healthy relationships and overall well-being.

7. Address Underlying Emotional Drivers

When struggling with habits like sugar cravings, identify the underlying emotional meaning or feeling associated with the behavior (e.g., control, comfort, freedom). Once identified, you can consciously choose to get that feeling without engaging in the undesirable behavior.

8. Seek Love Proactively and Worthily

If seeking a partner, be proactive by identifying the qualities you desire and going to places where such individuals might be found. Crucially, cultivate a mindset that you are worthy of love and deserve to be deeply loved, rather than feeling needy or incomplete.

9. Distinguish Needs in Relationships

Categorize your relationship needs into three groups: non-negotiable needs your partner must meet, needs you can meet yourself, and needs you can let go of. This helps in picking battles and fostering a more realistic and harmonious partnership.

10. Review Past Traumatic Scenes

Revisit past scenes or memories that shaped negative beliefs (e.g., feeling different, unlovable) not to relive them, but to review them with new understanding. Consciously state that the person you were in that scene is not who you are now, and you have control over your present reality.