The Relationships Professor: “This Is An Emergency!” The Number Of Men Having No Sex Increased 180%! (Why This Is Dangerous & How We Fix It)

Oct 2, 2023 1h 54m 13 insights
Scott Galloway, entrepreneur, author, and professor, discusses the crisis facing young men in society, exploring its biological, educational, and economic roots. He offers actionable insights for individuals and outlines a new vision for modern masculinity, emphasizing protection, provision, and procreation.
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Rejection Endurance

Develop the ability to endure rejection as it is the absolute key to success in both professional and personal life, more so than talent or hard work. Embrace rejection as a prerequisite for achieving significant economic or romantic success.

2. Reallocate Your Time Capital

Conduct a screen time audit to identify excessive hours spent on social media, gaming, or online activities, and reallocate that time to more productive pursuits. Think of your time as human capital to be invested in making money, physical fitness, or engaging in random social encounters.

3. Prioritize Physical Fitness

Dedicate four to six hours per week to physical fitness, as it can be more effective than pharmaceuticals and talk therapy for well-being. Being strong and in shape makes you more attractive, improves self-esteem, and fosters kindness.

4. Build Early Financial Security

Focus on developing skills in a field with a high employment rate, invest the necessary hours to become proficient, and live below your means like a stoic to accumulate capital. Invest at least two-thirds of your savings into low-cost ETFs and index funds, and start investing early, even with small amounts, to leverage compound interest and time.

5. Become a Male Role Model

Recognize that the primary solution for young men’s struggles is other men, and actively step up to mentor or guide young men in need. Get involved with irrational passion in the well-being of another child, as young men needing guidance are everywhere.

6. Modulate Online Consumption

Reduce overall time spent online, including modulating porn consumption, as every digital version of life is a shittier version of its analog counterpart. Less online engagement can help maintain the ‘mojo’ needed to take risks and engage in real-world interactions.

7. Cultivate In-Person Social Skills

Understand that online dating often fails to capture the ‘X factors’ of human sexuality like smell, humor, and intellect, which are best communicated in person. Develop in-person social skills such as good conversation, grooming, and confidence to impress potential partners in real-world settings.

8. Leverage Office for Young Professionals

If you are under 30 or 40, view the office as a crucial feature for career advancement and social connection, rather than a bug. Proximity in the workplace fosters strong relationships, which are essential for promotions and can lead to romantic partnerships.

9. Audit Your Addictions

Perform an audit of your personal addictions, including alcohol and other substances, to assess what you do excessively and how reducing it might improve your life. The test for addiction isn’t ruin, but whether you would be ’less shitty’ at things with moderation.

10. Embrace Modern Masculinity Pillars

Adopt a modern vision of masculinity based on being a protector, a provider, and an initiator in romantic relationships. Protect vulnerable communities without needing full understanding, provide for your family and community, and comfortably initiate romantic pursuits while respecting boundaries.

11. Learn AI for Career Advancement

Recognize that AI will not take your job, but rather someone who understands AI will. Invest in learning and adopting AI technologies to remain competitive and productive in the evolving job market.

12. Support Workplace Community

For leaders, invest in fostering community and friendship within the workplace, as it is a key retention tool and crucial for culture. Encourage social environments and interactions among junior staff, understanding that relationships, including romantic ones, often begin at work.

13. Encourage Children’s Risk-Taking

As a parent, allow children to experience unsupervised play and moderate risk-taking, such as experimenting with alcohol or drugs in a controlled manner. This helps them develop immunities and coping mechanisms rather than being overly sheltered.