#101 - Ryan Holiday: Finding stillness amidst chaos

Mar 27, 2020 Episode Page ↗
Overview

Ryan Holiday, bestselling author of "Daily Stoic," joins Peter Attia to discuss applying Stoic philosophy to navigate the COVID-19 pandemic. They explore practical ways to find stillness, assert control through routine, and leverage adversity for personal growth amidst widespread uncertainty and isolation.

At a Glance
21 Insights
1h 22m Duration
13 Topics
4 Concepts

Deep Dive Analysis

Reflecting on Personal Productivity Amidst Pandemic Disruption

Evaluating Life Priorities and Non-Negotiables During Crisis

Stoic Wisdom and Historical Perspective on Pandemics

Leadership Failures and Societal Response to Crisis

Understanding and Applying the Core Principles of Stoicism

Winston Churchill's Routines and Stillness During World War II

The Importance of Hobbies and Disconnecting for Mental Clarity

Utilizing 'Alive Time' vs. 'Dead Time' During Forced Downtime

Preparing for Worse-Case Scenarios and Systemic Weaknesses

Societal Learning, Leadership Accountability, and Generational Impact

Asserting Control and Maintaining Routine in Confined Environments

The Power of Journaling and Finding Purpose in Adversity

Optimism and Concerns for the Coming Months

Stoicism

A philosophy that teaches we don't control what has happened or is happening, but we control how we respond to those things. It emphasizes focusing on what is within one's immediate control to move forward and prepare for future challenges.

Status Quo Bias

The human tendency to prefer current situations and resist change, often leading to a belief that existing arrangements are non-negotiable even when they are not. This bias can prevent individuals from realizing flexibility in their lives until forced by external circumstances.

Alive Time vs. Dead Time

A mental model for distinguishing between time spent passively enduring a situation (dead time) and time actively used for growth, learning, or preparation (alive time). It encourages individuals to leverage periods of forced idleness or adversity for personal development rather than mere distraction.

Parkinson's Law

The principle that work expands to fill the time available for its completion. This suggests that without self-imposed limits or routines, tasks can consume all available time, making it harder to find moments for detachment or self-care.

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How can adversity be a positive opportunity for personal reflection?

Adversity provides a chance to see things differently, evaluate current life setups, and question previously non-negotiable aspects of one's existence, potentially revealing a desired pace or structure closer to one's true preferences.

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What would ancient Stoics advise during a pandemic like COVID-19?

Stoics like Marcus Aurelius would advise calmness, clear-headedness, and courage, emphasizing that while external events like plagues are bad, the true danger lies in internal responses like selfishness, greed, and panic, which ruin character.

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Why is it important for leaders and individuals to have hobbies?

Hobbies provide a necessary disconnect from work and daily pressures, forcing mental focus in a non-work context, which protects against constant reactivity and helps in making better, less emotional decisions.

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How can individuals make the most of forced downtime, such as during a quarantine?

Individuals can use this 'alive time' for self-care, relaxation, and tuning out, but also to question life decisions, business goals, and experiment with new things, leveraging the reduced external expectations to recharge and grow.

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Why is it crucial to plan for things to get worse, even when current circumstances are already bad?

Planning for worse-case scenarios, or 'shit to really hit the fan,' is essential because it addresses the weakness of being unprepared for massive, interconnected problems affecting everyone simultaneously, rather than just isolated, minor catastrophes.

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Does society learn from major crises like pandemics?

Historically, societies often do not learn much from crises, but Stoicism suggests that the goal is for individuals to emerge from such events better and stronger, making it a tragedy to learn nothing and revert to business as usual.

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How can people assert agency and maintain routine when confined to small spaces during a crisis?

People can assert agency by intentionally setting alarms, establishing daily routines like making their bed, and engaging in physical activity, even if it's a short app-based workout, to maintain control over some aspects of their lives.

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How can journaling be a powerful tool during challenging times?

Journaling serves as a place to remind oneself of intentions, reiterate personal values, and work through thoughts, acting as a 'project' that provides momentum, accomplishment, and purpose, much like Anne Frank's diary.

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What are the potential long-term economic concerns stemming from the pandemic?

Long-term economic concerns include the impact on Medicare, Medicaid, and Social Security, the evaporation of retirement gains for those nearing retirement, and the immense national debt, especially if interest rates cannot be kept at zero.

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How can one manage worry during a crisis?

Worry is only productive when it motivates action; otherwise, it's best to curb it and focus on what is present and controllable, such as spending quality time with family and reiterating appreciation for current circumstances.

1. Focus on What You Control

Direct your energy towards the things you can immediately influence, such as your responses and decisions, rather than dwelling on external events beyond your control.

2. Cultivate Intentional Growth

View dramatic setbacks or adversity as opportunities to see things differently and emerge wiser and better at what you do, rather than just passively enduring them.

3. Establish Daily Routines

Create and maintain consistent daily routines and rituals, like waking up early or making your bed, to assert agency and provide structure amidst chaos and powerlessness.

4. Prioritize Detachment & Hobbies

Make dedicated time each day for moments of detachment, stillness, or engaging in hobbies (like painting or golf) to disconnect from work, gain perspective, and protect yourself from constant reactivity.

5. Journal for Self-Affirmation

Use journaling as a daily practice to remind yourself of how you want to be, reiterate what’s important to you, and internalize desired mindsets, much like practicing scales on an instrument.

6. Exercise Daily

Commit to daily physical activity, even if it’s just 20 minutes with body weight, to strengthen self-discipline, improve physiological and psychological well-being, and assert control over your body.

7. Re-evaluate Life & Goals

Utilize periods of disruption to question assumptions about your life, decisions, businesses, and long-term goals, allowing for experimentation with new approaches and priorities.

8. Prepare for Worst-Case Scenarios

Go beyond preparing for minor setbacks and actively plan for situations where ‘shit really hits the fan,’ considering how to adapt to massive, interconnected problems affecting everyone simultaneously.

9. Limit Unproductive Worry

Consciously check your worrying to ensure it remains productive, motivating you to action rather than paralyzing you; focus instead on what is present and actionable.

10. Avoid Blame, Focus on Progress

Shift your focus from assigning blame or lamenting misfortune to actively identifying how you can move forward and solve problems in your immediate purview.

11. Practice Saying No

Learn to decline non-essential commitments and activities, recognizing that many ’non-negotiables’ are actually flexible, allowing you to free up time and energy.

12. Manage Social Media Consumption

Actively limit exposure to anxiety-inducing social media platforms like Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, while selectively using them for creative output rather than passive consumption.

13. Prioritize Family & Connection

Make a point to spend quality time with your family every day, expressing gratitude for their presence, and engage in long, meaningful conversations with others to calm the mind and maintain connectivity.

14. Seek Redeeming Qualities

Even in difficult situations, actively look for small positives and marginal improvements across different aspects of your life that can lead to lasting benefits.

15. Share Resources Effectively

If you have resources or access to things others lack, consider how you can share them responsibly and effectively to help those in less ideal situations.

16. Study History for Perspective

Gain a deeper understanding and perspective on current unprecedented events by looking at historical precedents and how past generations navigated similar challenges.

17. Cultivate Self-Discipline & Altruism

Practice tempering personal desires, limiting oneself, and prioritizing the needs of other people, especially during times of widespread crisis.

18. Contribute to Community

Find ways to contribute and do good in your community, such as making masks, to find purpose and escape from feelings of resentment, anger, or boredom.

19. Re-evaluate Leadership

Reflect on the qualities of effective leadership and the importance of character in those in charge, aiming to learn from past mistakes in selecting leaders.

20. Prioritize Financial Decisions

Make sound financial decisions to ensure your family’s stability and prepare for potential economic challenges or income disruptions.

21. Stay Informed Locally

Watch the news to know what local authorities are telling you to do, such as specific directives or guidelines for the day.

Every shitty thing that happens to you is material. Everything you mess up is material. Every person that breaks your heart, every dollar you lose, every sort of missed opportunity is material.

Ryan Holiday

A plague can only threaten your life. The real problem, the thing we actually have to be worried about is sort of selfishness and greed and panic. These things sort of ruin your character as well as your life.

Ryan Holiday (attributing to Marcus Aurelius)

I expect you to go in the kitchen and get a butcher knife and take one of them with you when they come in the front door.

Ryan Holiday (attributing to Winston Churchill)

The only inexcusable thing for a military commander to say is that I didn't think it could happen.

Ryan Holiday (attributing to Seneca quoting Fabius)

The world breaks everyone. And afterwards, sometimes the broken people are stronger in the broken places. But the people that don't break, the world kills.

Ryan Holiday (attributing to Ernest Hemingway)

Winston Churchill's Daily Stillness and Productivity Routine

Ryan Holiday
  1. Write at the same time every day.
  2. Nap at the same time every day.
  3. Eat and dress for dinner.
  4. Take long walks during the day.
  5. Visit his goldfish pond daily.
  6. Feed the swans daily.
  7. Paint in his studio every day.
  8. Lay bricks every day (on his estate).
  9. Work every day.

Asserting Agency and Routine in Confinement

Ryan Holiday
  1. Set an old-school alarm clock to wake up early intentionally, even if not required.
  2. Be deliberate about the order and structure of your day.
  3. Find ways to assert control in small, personal ways (e.g., making your bed, choosing how to wear a uniform).
  4. Engage in daily exercise, even a short app-based workout, to maintain physical and psychological discipline.
  5. Create personal projects or goals (e.g., deadlift personal record, reading a book series, learning a new skill) to provide momentum and purpose.
180 AD
Year Marcus Aurelius died of a pandemic The Antonine Plague lasted 15 years during his reign.
10 million
Approximate number of words Winston Churchill wrote in his lifetime In addition to his extensive political career.
60 years
Duration Winston Churchill held office Reflecting his long and impactful political career.
10 years
Duration Winston Churchill spent in 'political wilderness' During which he advocated against German rearmament and was largely ignored.
13 days
Duration of the Cuban Missile Crisis Compared to the years of sustained stress during World War II.
30%
Percentage of Ryan Holiday's income that disappeared due to cancellations Personal impact experienced during the pandemic.
Over 1 million
Number of people in California who filed for unemployment As of late March during the pandemic, according to a story read by Peter Attia.
$6 trillion
Total federal government stimulus package announced $2 trillion in hard assets, $4 trillion less so.
1 million
Potential number of deaths in the United States in a non-optimistic pandemic scenario Would represent a third or 30% increase in all-cause mortality.