How To Make This Your Best Year Yet: 3 Questions To Ask Yourself Each Day with Dr Rangan Chatterjee #413

Dec 31, 2023 Episode Page ↗
Overview

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee discusses the transformative power of journaling, highlighting its benefits for sleep, decision-making, stress reduction, and habit formation. He introduces his "Three Question Journal" and shares six impactful questions—three for morning and three for evening—to foster intentional living and self-awareness.

At a Glance
14 Insights
1h 5m Duration
13 Topics
4 Concepts

Deep Dive Analysis

Introduction to Journaling and its Transformative Benefits

Accessibility of Journaling and Dr. Chatterjee's Approach

Morning Journaling Question 1: Identifying Your Most Important Task

Understanding Negativity Bias and Stress in Modern Life

Morning Journaling Question 2: Practicing Daily Gratitude

Journaling as a Keystone Habit for Positive Change

Morning Journaling Question 3: Choosing a Quality to Embody

Practical Tips for Making Journaling a Lasting Habit

Evening Journaling Question 1: Reflecting on What Went Well

Evening Journaling Question 2: Planning for Tomorrow's Improvements

Developing Self-Awareness Through Consistent Journaling

Evening Journaling Question 3: Recognizing Acts of Kindness

The Overall Impact of Intentional Journaling on Your Life

Negativity Bias

The human brain's inherent tendency to give more weight to negative experiences and information than positive ones, a survival mechanism from ancestral times. Psychologists suggest humans take in nine bits of negative information for every positive bit, making it crucial to intentionally focus on positives.

Keystone Habit

A habit that, when adopted, makes it significantly more likely for an individual to engage in other positive habits, creating a ripple effect of beneficial changes in one's life. Journaling, for example, can be a powerful keystone habit that leads to improved patience, calmness, and productivity.

Visualization

A mental practice, often employed by top athletes, where one imagines desired outcomes or behaviors in detail. By visualizing qualities like patience or compassion in the morning, individuals can program their minds to manifest those traits throughout the day, making it more likely to happen.

Self-Awareness

The ability to understand one's own patterns, thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. While most people believe they are highly self-aware, research suggests only 10-15% of individuals truly possess a high degree of it, and regular journaling is a powerful tool to catch patterns and increase this crucial skill.

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What are the main benefits of regular journaling?

Regular journaling can improve sleep, lead to better decision-making, reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression, decrease emotional stress, make it easier to form long-term habits, and improve relationship quality, ultimately fostering a more mindful and intentional life.

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Do I need a special journal to start journaling?

No, you don't need to buy a specific journal; you can simply write your thoughts or answers to questions on a piece of paper. The key is to make the habit accessible and find what works best for you.

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Why is it important to identify the 'most important thing' to do each day?

In a world of endless to-do lists, identifying one most important thing helps to cut through the overwhelm, focus your intention, and ensures that at least one significant goal is achieved, making the day feel like a win.

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How does practicing gratitude help with daily stress and negativity?

Gratitude acts as an antidote to the brain's natural negativity bias by intentionally shifting focus to the positive aspects of life, which can enhance mood, reduce anxiety and depression, improve sleep, and increase energy and focus.

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Is it better to write journal entries by hand or type them digitally?

Most research suggests that writing by hand on paper is more powerful than typing, possibly because the pace of writing mirrors the brain's working pace. However, if typing is the only way you'll do it, it's still beneficial to take action.

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How can I make journaling a long-term habit?

To make journaling a long-term habit, make it easy (e.g., short duration), stick it onto an existing habit (e.g., morning coffee), make it visible (e.g., leave journal out), and reduce friction (e.g., keep a pen nearby).

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What is the purpose of reflecting on 'what went well today' in the evening?

This question helps to counteract the brain's negativity bias by consciously recalling positive events, reminding you that things are going well, and changing how you feel about yourself, even on busy or challenging days.

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How does reflecting on 'what I can do differently tomorrow' contribute to personal growth?

This question allows for compassionate self-assessment and learning from the day's experiences, helping you identify areas for improvement and make intentional changes for the following day without self-criticism.

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Why is it beneficial to reflect on 'what I did for someone else today'?

Focusing on acts of kindness shifts attention outwards, which can significantly improve mental well-being and happiness, as humans are social animals designed to connect and contribute to others.

1. Adopt Daily Journaling

Engage in journaling regularly to improve sleep, decision-making, reduce anxiety, depression, and emotional stress, and foster mindful, intentional living by reflecting on your life. This practice helps externalize thoughts, making paths clearer and breaking unconscious patterns.

2. Identify Daily Priority

Each morning, ask yourself: ‘What is the most important thing you have to do today?’ Write down one single answer to focus your intention, reduce overwhelm, and ensure that at least one truly important task is accomplished, making that day a ‘win’.

3. Practice Morning Gratitude

Begin each morning by asking: ‘What is one thing you deeply appreciate about your life?’ This practice acts as an antidote to the brain’s negativity bias, fostering positivity, improving mood, energy, focus, and reducing anxiety and depression.

4. Choose Daily Quality

Every morning, ask yourself: ‘What quality do I want to show the world today?’ By intentionally deciding and writing down a desired quality (e.g., patience, compassion), you visualize and program your mind to embody that trait, leading to more intentional interactions and behaviors.

5. Reflect on Daily Successes

Each evening, ask yourself: ‘What went well today?’ This question helps counteract the negativity bias by reminding you of positive experiences, improving how you feel about yourself and fostering a daily awareness that things are indeed going well.

6. Plan for Tomorrow’s Improvement

In the evening, ask: ‘What can I do differently tomorrow?’ This practice, especially when combined with reflecting on what went well, helps you compassionately assess your day, learn from experiences, and make specific plans for self-improvement and increased self-awareness.

7. Track Acts of Kindness

Every evening, ask: ‘What did I do for someone else today?’ This question encourages outward focus, counteracting inward struggles, and promotes happiness and well-being by reminding you of your positive impact on others and reinforcing a sense of being a good, caring person.

8. Make Journaling Easy

To ensure journaling becomes a long-term habit, make it as easy as possible; start with just one question if needed, as even a minute or two of effort is more effective than aiming for a longer, more difficult practice that might not stick when motivation wanes.

9. Anchor Journaling to Habits

Integrate journaling into an existing daily habit, such as having a hot drink or getting out of bed, to make it a consistent part of your routine. This ‘sticking’ method leverages established behaviors to build new ones effortlessly.

10. Ensure Journal Visibility

Keep your journal and a pen in a visible, easily accessible location, like your bedside table or kitchen counter, to serve as a visual trigger. This reduces friction and makes you more likely to engage in the practice regularly.

11. Prioritize Pen & Paper

Whenever possible, write your journal entries with a pen and paper, as research suggests this method is more powerful and mirrors the brain’s pace better than typing. However, if typing on a phone is the only option, do that rather than skipping the practice entirely.

12. Start Small, Build Consistency

If you’re hesitant, commit to answering just one journaling question for seven days to experience the benefits before assessing its impact. Starting small increases the likelihood of adherence and allows the practice to evolve into a cherished ritual.

13. Experiment with Journaling Methods

Recognize that there are many ways to journal, and the key is to experiment and find what works best for you. Don’t feel pressured to buy a specific journal; a simple piece of paper is sufficient to begin the practice.

14. Be Specific in Gratitude

Enhance your gratitude practice by being specific about what you appreciate, focusing on people rather than just things, and connecting with the emotions you felt in that moment. This deepens the practice and strengthens the ‘appreciation muscle’.

Journaling helps you step outside of your life in order to reflect on your life. And so whatever you want, the path towards it becomes clearer.

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

We have these unconscious patterns, these subconscious patterns running our lives. We don't realize how many anxieties and worries and concerns we have whirring around. And journaling is a very simple way to get the stuff out of your brain.

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

Not everything in life matters equally. And by thinking it does, we fall into a trap. It's a trap the modern world sets for us.

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Your brain is wired for negativity. Humans have this negativity bias. That negativity bias is what has kept you alive for so many years.

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

Motivation never lasts. In the research, they call this the motivation wave. Motivation goes up and motivation comes down. If something is difficult to do, you'll do it when your motivation is really high.

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Some scientists will say that there really isn't that much difference between actually doing it and imagining it.

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Journaling becomes a way of having a conversation with yourself every single day.

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Self-awareness is important for whatever you want to achieve in life.

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Individuals who are other focused, experience greater happiness. One study suggested that practicing kindness may have more of a positive effect on our health and happiness than diet and exercise.

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You become the driver of your life rather than a passive passenger.

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Morning 3-Question Journaling Protocol

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee
  1. Ask yourself: 'What is the most important thing you have to do today?'
  2. Ask yourself: 'What is one thing you deeply appreciate about your life?'
  3. Ask yourself: 'What quality do I want to show the world today?'

Evening 3-Question Journaling Protocol

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee
  1. Ask yourself: 'What went well today?'
  2. Ask yourself: 'What can I do differently tomorrow?'
  3. Ask yourself: 'What did I do for someone else today?'

Enhancing Gratitude Practice

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee
  1. Try to be specific in your gratitude (e.g., what about the coffee, atmosphere, barista's smile).
  2. Focus on people rather than things (e.g., a supportive friend, a kind boss).
  3. Try to really connect with your emotions as you write (e.g., how pleased, cared for, or lucky you felt).

Making New Behaviors Stick (Journaling)

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee
  1. Make the new behavior easy (e.g., answering just one question in less than a minute).
  2. Stick this new behavior onto an existing habit (e.g., during your morning hot drink, or before getting out of bed).
  3. Make the new behavior visible (e.g., leave your journal and pen on your bedside table or kitchen counter).
  4. Reduce friction (e.g., ensure a pen is always readily available with your journal).
up to 90%
Stress responsibility for doctor visits of what a doctor like Dr. Chatterjee might see on any given day in practice
9 to 1
Human negativity bias (negative to positive information intake ratio) Humans take in nine bits of negative information for every positive bit
20 minutes
Duration of gratitude journaling in Chad Burton study for three consecutive days, writing about a positive experience
3 months later
Follow-up period for Chad Burton gratitude study participants showed enhanced moods, less illness, and fewer doctor visits
25%
Increase in performance for daily journalers (Harvard Business Review study) compared to a control group who did not journal
10 to 15%
Percentage of people with high self-awareness research suggests the majority (up to 90%) are not highly self-aware